Simply Stacy Poetry

A Lyrical Journey For the Heart & Soul

The Journey To Loving Me and She…

I literally had to become an adult before I learned how what I think manifests into what I speak and what I speak ultimately turns into what I do.  Women I encountered outside of my mother, unknowingly taught me how to dislike other women, without knowing them.  I became conditioned, not because of what I experienced, solely based off of what I “learned” by hearing to “size her up.”  Now, let’s put a little bit of logic to how a person heals, transforms, and grows out of such behaviors.  Learned behavior develops in layers, year after year after year… thick and stacked high!  It takes time to remove those layers, thought processes over time, but God can do anything and He can do it quickly (His quick is not our quick though ha ha!) Something happens to break through one or a few of those layers and as each layer is peeled away, the freer that person becomes, their thoughts change, ideas change, perceptions change.  That’s exactly what happened to me… and the root of why “I didn’t like her… without even knowing her… is because I didn’t like me.”  I had to first learn to sincerely love me, I had to believe what I said about me, for real.  You know we live in a world where it’s easy to pick up a mask, place it on, live for the day, take it off, go to sleep and do it all over again day after day, month after month, year after year.  I did that, lived behind the mask of false confidence, I didn’t like what I saw when I looked in the mirror and that made it easy to dislike others, women especially, especially women who had confidence.

God broke through to me, me being completely unwilling of course… but He did.  It was in those moments, I learned, that when God sets out to accomplish something in you, it will get done and the sooner you say yes, the more impact He will have.  He gave me two daughters… they came from me, I couldn’t teach them the ugliness that resided in me.  The process began of loving me, because of how much I loved them.  I had to first accept and love the color of my skin.  I am dark skinned and within my culture and outside of my culture, I was made to feel that dark skinned women aren’t beautiful. I bought into those lies, I didn’t like the skin I was in and on top of that, I have an overbite, I walk with a limp due to a birth defect, I’m big-skinny (fat stomach, small legs, big chest, fact face) LOL, I know, silly… but I didn’t like who I saw when I looked at me, thought about me.  I remembered the words of life my momma spoke over me as a little girl. I started to believe the words my husband affirmed over me, and the how my daddy said I was beautiful. It started there, I knew when I looked at my daughters that they were beautiful and I wanted to make sure they believed that about themselves when I told them that.  In doing that, I was reminded that I couldn’t expect them to believe me, when I didn’t believe my own mother’s words.

Anyway, God began to break down the layers and with ever layer removed from me, I was able to see my fellow sister in a different light.  I found myself after about a 15 year delayering process loving me.  I loved the beauty, the variety, the originality of women.  My black sisters, were becoming works of art in my eyes, no longer beings that I disliked because of my own insecurities.  She was the epitome of beauty to me. When I looked around I saw different types of women, shapes of women and it encouraged me.  I was inspired to accept my originality and now I want to be surrounded.  I am interested in learning about the different gifts each woman possesses, I want to embrace my fellow sisters of my culture and other cultures, identifying with our similarities and understanding our intricacies.  I want to kill the stereotype that I’d once made my reality… “Women just don’t get along.”  That’s a false statement that I want to bury with every woman that God blesses to connect with me.  I love me…. and now I can love she because we are one in the same, originally made.

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July 26, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Your Choice…

There’s this wonderful thing called “free will,” that I think we grossly misunderstand.  No one person is without mistake, but the thing about making mistakes is whether or not you learn from them.  So, you’re free will… you make a choice, that choice results in a consequence, that consequence results in a process or pathway you travel and some choices leave us wondering, “Did I make the right choice?” or “Why did I make this choice?”  It’s funny, in my own learning, growing, changing, and being corrected, I have indeed found myself not always accepting the consequences of the choices I made.  Some things, I didn’t want to take responsibility for, I didn’t want to acknowledge that there were choices I made, some where that got me to this crazy point I stand at today.  I realize, not taking responsibility for the free will decisions I’ve made and instead wanting to blame God or even another person for the outcome as a result of my choices, prevented me from LEARNING from it.  I used to be that person… victim, the one people wanted to hurt, or my favorite, “Oh I’m a black sheep…”  However, today, I realize that was a coward out, a way for me to avoid have to pull myself up by my boot straps, swallow my pride and say, “Hey, you made a few mistakes, some choice that landed you here, but now, wash your face, look to God and find out the next step He wants you to take to begin the correction and restoration process.”

I am not saying, that everything someone goes through is their fault, because there are God allowed things that happen in our lives, that I just gotta be honest, we aren’t meant to understand them.  I believe that is the pill that is the hardest to swallow for a free will being… especially living in a country where many people actually believe they are entitled.  This message, is simply about taking responsibility for where you are in life.  I can’t put my mouth on any one else, but Stacy, oh boy have I taken the process I was meant to endure and blame someone else for it.  I was foolishly bold enough to even say, “God is selective in whom He loves, because if He really loved me, I wouldn’t be going through: [this].”  In essence, I didn’t believe God’s Word, that “all things work together for good to those who love God…(Romans 8:28)”  What God promised in that scripture couldn’t come true in my life until I believed the second part of it, “to those who are called according to His purpose.”  The second part of that scripture to me means, I had to first believe He called me and secondly, I had to trust what He called me for…including all that I had to face in this life.  I wanted God in my life when it benefited me, I didn’t want to serve Him, I wanted Him to serve me.  Don’t raise your eyebrows at that statement, every time we deviate from God’s plans, purpose for something, every time we make a choice that directly contradicts His will… we say in no uncertain terms, “God I want You to serve me; I’m not interested in serving, obeying and trusting You or Your plans.” I think if we truly heard ourselves saying those words when we ignore the still small voice, the gut feeling, the countless warnings He gives us right before we do something of our own free will, we’d be less likely to do it.

Even in the making of the mistake, the blatant decisions I’ve made which resulted in me enduring a tough process, there’s Hope; God still covers and protects, while He corrects. I love that the choices I’ve made can be used to make me a better me if I first take responsibility for the choice I made, repent and ask God to lead me, decrease me that He might increase within me.  I know that is something tough for people to grasp… God having such a measure of faithfulness, such a Love for a people who turn their backs on Him and blame Him at every turn, but He still blesses, protects, covers, re-directs, shares, cares, and wants them apart of Him.  But again, to see that… guess what it starts with… Your Choice.

July 19, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I’m In This For You

I pour my heart out

To make sure there’s no doubt

That I’m in this for you

Enough following society’s standard

Of making you read my mind

I lay it all out there

Transparently on the line

I’m in this for you

No, you’re not my life

I had that before you came

I’m securely me

You’re securely you

Now we can be

One together

And individuals too

I just want to be clear

I hope you understand

That I’m in this for you

I’m your woman

You’re my man…

I’m in this for you

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June 30, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Love Beyond Fantasy: When Real Love Meets the Road Radio Show!!

Hi WP Family!!!

I’ve got to do better keeping up with you all, you guys are such an AMAZING SUPPORT to me!  I wanted to share with you all an endeavor my husband and I have embarked upon… an online radio show!  Love Beyond Fantasy: When Real Love Meets the Road.  We broadcast live every third Tuesday of the month on Blog Talk Radio… we discuss relationships of all kinds, friendships, love relationships, business relationships… toxic relationships, fulfilling relationships, healthy relationships, draining relationships…. ALL TYPES.

This month’s episode is entitled, “When Keeping It Real Goes RIGHT!”  We we will be chatting with DC Natives, Abdul and Tonika Mahdi as they share with us how communication, honesty and no excuses keep them strong and in love!  We’ll have some music and definitively good conversation… won’t you join us? Tuesday, April 15th at 9p EST — Got a cell phone, you can call and listen in at (310) 742-1879; got a tablet or a computer? Even better! Tune in at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lovebeyondfantasy/2014/04/16/when-keepin-it-real-goes-right

Got a question for us? Email us at lbfradioshow@gmail.com or tweet us at @lbfradioshow

Hope y’all will tune and tell a friend!

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April 4, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Just A Beat of My Heart…

Tonight WP I sit in a very familiar place; I can feel the tears welling up in my eyes and at the same time I feel them spilling over in my heart.  I am at a place that I’ve been before, I know it, I feel it.  So tonight, I am here not to vent or bring you down, but to encourage you all. Remain positive, NO MATTER WHAT life throws your way; remember what’s thrown at you, you CAN handle!  Hurt when left untreated can fester, corrode, and turn into a hardened rust that only God can heal.  Anger when left to sit can spread like a virus and infect everything and everyone it comes in contact with.  So someone may ask, “How do you deal with that?” “How do you cope?” Start by thinking on better thoughts… you can’t produce what isn’t already in your heart to come out…

Life is not an easy feat, it was never meant to be, however, I believe life was meant to be a journey full of lessons that results in blessings.  Some of the lessons we’re meant to learn in life don’t come to us in an easy way and those are the ones that I believe stick closest to your heart, the lessons that you can walk someone else through to help them avoid going through what you did to get what God intended to teach you.  So, tonight I sit here in the place of “Be anxious for nothing but in EVERYTHING give thanks…” and I have to do just that… in EVERYTHING… my angst, my hurt, my nervousness, I will GIVE THANKS!

I am not religious by any stretch of the imagination, I do however have a relationship with Jesus Christ and I believe He has something GREAT in store for me if I conquer this moment that attempts to ail me right now.  I just wanted to connect with you all WP Family; I pray you all have a beautiful evening and continue to be ENCOURAGED!Image

February 25, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Choosing To Love…

The newness of love; there’s nothing like it.  If we’re honest with ourselves, the feelings, moments, memories made when a new love blossom are the same fruits we strive for throughout the relationship — we want those exact experiences back.  But you miss out on so much when you try to recapture past moments, feelings, experiences.  I’ve learned through my own personal journey in love that some of the most amazing moments were grown into…

You don’t have the fairytale everyday, no but the good should outweigh the bad (personal choices).  Happiness and love go hand in hand; because we have to make a choice to do both.  Life can be so rough and it is in our human nature to gauge how we feel based on what we see, so if we are having a rough go and looking at what we see we won’t be happy unless we choose to be… So, you choose to love and you choose to be happy.  Some days those are HARD HARD choices to make, but they are choices nonetheless.  This blog talks about the choice of LOVE….choosing to be happy….

I had some rough bounces in my 14 year marriage and 16 year relationship with my husband and it took a near break to realize he and I both had choices to make if we wanted to keep our marriage tight on a track to grow and go.  We went through a tough marital storm that brought us to our knees and our senses.  We ended up in counseling — word of advice counseling should be a staple in relationships.  Counseling to marriage and love relationships is like the doctor to your body, prayer to your spirit, it’s something that you shouldn’t wait to or pursue when things get bad.  However, it took that series of humbling experiences to teach us what we needed to do.  We even had to make a choice to make it work.  So, now we choose to love, we love daily… we have issues, some days we don’t want to like each other, but what’s funny is it doesn’t last long.  Arguments are few and far between, butterflies are returning and we find new reasons to make one another smile.

Love and happiness go hand in hand… we choose to love and we choose to live in happiness… enjoy this life… while you can…

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November 15, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , | Leave a comment

Our Love

It’s like the moment you realize your heart is at peace

The moment where that thing that stressed you, left you

Relief

It’s like the finding the single piece to the puzzle

That’s seemed to last forever

Yea, that’s what’s it like when you and I are together

It’s like writing the missing lyric

To complete that perfect song

It’s like hearing the sound of soft rain

On a romantic night you want to last ALL NIGHT LONG

That moment that gives you life

Blissful, warm, you know that kind

That’s what our love is like

What we have is far beyond what society says

We go against the grain seeking within the deep

You know the kind, where one watches the other while they sleep

God hand mixed the colors of our love

Red with Blue to make the purple ribbons tied around are hearts

Then He blessed it and we promised Him we’d never part

This love is different

Never to be the norm

This love is forever

Keeping the two of us eternally warm

This Love.

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September 2, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Love….

I had an experience recently with Love…

I was on the phone with someone that I’m closely associated with, we aren’t quite “friends” yet but as the call closed, she said, “Love you sis” and I returned the endearment with the same sentiment, but after I did I felt some type of way… deep down in my spirit, “Do I love her??? No…I don’t.”  God corrected that in my spirit quickly!! How many of y’all know that God correction comes with a full on lesson!

He begin to remind me of the four types of love:

Agápe means love in a “spiritual” sense. It often refers to a general affection or deeper sense of “true unconditional love” rather than the attraction suggested by “eros.” This love is selfless; it gives and expects nothing in return. Agape is used in the biblical passage known as the “love chapter,” 1 Corinthians 13, and is described there and throughout the New Testament as sacrificial and spiritual love. Whether the love given is returned or not, the person continues to love (even without any self-benefit).

Éros is “physical” passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. Romantic, pure emotion without the balance of logic. “Love at first sight.”  The Modern Greek word “erotas” means “intimate love;” however, eros does not have to be sexual in nature. It can apply to dating relationships as well as marriage. 

Philia “mental” love. It means affectionate regard or friendship in both ancient and modern Greek. This type of love has give and take. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity. In ancient texts, philos denoted a general type of love, used for love between family, between friends, a desire or enjoyment of an activity, as well as between lovers.

Storge means “affection” in ancient and modern Greek. It is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Almost exclusively as a descriptor of relationships within the family. It is also known to express mere acceptance or putting up with situations, as in “loving” the tyrant.

After reading this information I realized I didn’t lie to her, my actions weren’t hypocritical, what I said was true… “I love you too” (AGAPE LOVE). Agape Love is LOVE THAT ONLY God can initiate…it is not driven by the conditions we set in place to determine whether we love someone or not.  God laid love on my heart for her and that’s why the words were so easy to flow.  You work so hard to make sure you’re honest, not phony and saying what sounds right that you can often forget how the sovereignty of God and the flow of His Spirit can move and readjust even your life’s best laid plans…

God wants us to love EVERY body…but our human condition can prevent us from fulfilling this mandate…God knows that, but that’s why He Graces us with His Spirit and instills His Love in our hearts so that we can love one another… you learn and grow as you go forward with God, but even while growing He gives us a GOOD DOSE of mercy to help us achieve the milestones He’s set for us on this life’s journey!

Love… I have so much more growing into you to do!Image

July 25, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , | Leave a comment

UPCOMING EVENTS!!

There’s a lot of great things happening on this poetry journey and I would love for you to join me 🙂

Thursday, April 11th – Second Thursday Open Mic at Urban Grind – 962 Marietta St NW  Atlanta, GA 30318 — this amazing show is hosted by the awesome Shawn Deangelo! Show starts at 7:30p; admission is $5 per person! A family atmosphere, energy is always LIVE, and the art is the highlight of the night!

Friday, April 12th – JOIN ME!!! I’ll be with the Source Singles Ministry performing poetry! They’re hosting a Singles Panel Discussion; come get your questions answered from those who are actually living it.  Where: New Mercies Christian Church, 4000 Five Forks Trickum Road, SW, Lilburn, GA 30047 — the event starts at 7:00 and it’s ABSOLUTELY FREE!!!

Sunday, April 14th – I’ve signed up to be on the list at Love Jones Sundays hosted by Hank Stewart taking place Marlee’s Tea and Coffehouse!! Admission: $5 per person and show starts at 5p!

I’m grateful for every opportunity I’m given to perform the poetry that my heart holds dearly and I’m thankful to all of those who support me! I hope to see you all at one of these amazing events!!

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April 10, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Selfish? or Selfless??

There’s a lot to be said about the words selfish and selfless

Dictionary definitions: selfish – Lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure; selfless – Concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one’s own.

I realize to arrive to the place of selflessness you will go through a process, there’s A LOT of stuff God has to work out of you in order to get to the place of putting someone else’s needs before your own. I mean, let’s be real, we were born selfish, it was in our nature from birth. When you were a baby, you cried because you needed to eat, be changed, be held, go to sleep.  As a small child  you were only worried about yourself, your needs, what you wanted. Teenage years, you cared about things that benefited you, what you needed, desired, had to have and then you arrive to adulthood…

Now, the layers of selfishness stacked upon you over time, so it takes just as much time to delayer you; so then, God steps in… you allow Christ full access to you life and He begins to take you on the journey of placing others needs before your own.  You go through a series of situations, each one working out a selfish characteristic that your heart once held; arriving to today!  I find myself desiring to be more selfless and less selfish and when God grants me that request, life seems to be so much more rewarding…

Questions To Consider: Are you giving more than you’re getting? When you give, are you giving because it’s something you really want to do? Or do you give because that’s what “everyone” expects you to do?  When you give; does it benefit you? Or do you sincerely have the best interest of the one you’re helping in mind??

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April 5, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

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