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Your Choice…

There’s this wonderful thing called “free will,” that I think we grossly misunderstand.  No one person is without mistake, but the thing about making mistakes is whether or not you learn from them.  So, you’re free will… you make a choice, that choice results in a consequence, that consequence results in a process or pathway you travel and some choices leave us wondering, “Did I make the right choice?” or “Why did I make this choice?”  It’s funny, in my own learning, growing, changing, and being corrected, I have indeed found myself not always accepting the consequences of the choices I made.  Some things, I didn’t want to take responsibility for, I didn’t want to acknowledge that there were choices I made, some where that got me to this crazy point I stand at today.  I realize, not taking responsibility for the free will decisions I’ve made and instead wanting to blame God or even another person for the outcome as a result of my choices, prevented me from LEARNING from it.  I used to be that person… victim, the one people wanted to hurt, or my favorite, “Oh I’m a black sheep…”  However, today, I realize that was a coward out, a way for me to avoid have to pull myself up by my boot straps, swallow my pride and say, “Hey, you made a few mistakes, some choice that landed you here, but now, wash your face, look to God and find out the next step He wants you to take to begin the correction and restoration process.”

I am not saying, that everything someone goes through is their fault, because there are God allowed things that happen in our lives, that I just gotta be honest, we aren’t meant to understand them.  I believe that is the pill that is the hardest to swallow for a free will being… especially living in a country where many people actually believe they are entitled.  This message, is simply about taking responsibility for where you are in life.  I can’t put my mouth on any one else, but Stacy, oh boy have I taken the process I was meant to endure and blame someone else for it.  I was foolishly bold enough to even say, “God is selective in whom He loves, because if He really loved me, I wouldn’t be going through: [this].”  In essence, I didn’t believe God’s Word, that “all things work together for good to those who love God…(Romans 8:28)”  What God promised in that scripture couldn’t come true in my life until I believed the second part of it, “to those who are called according to His purpose.”  The second part of that scripture to me means, I had to first believe He called me and secondly, I had to trust what He called me for…including all that I had to face in this life.  I wanted God in my life when it benefited me, I didn’t want to serve Him, I wanted Him to serve me.  Don’t raise your eyebrows at that statement, every time we deviate from God’s plans, purpose for something, every time we make a choice that directly contradicts His will… we say in no uncertain terms, “God I want You to serve me; I’m not interested in serving, obeying and trusting You or Your plans.” I think if we truly heard ourselves saying those words when we ignore the still small voice, the gut feeling, the countless warnings He gives us right before we do something of our own free will, we’d be less likely to do it.

Even in the making of the mistake, the blatant decisions I’ve made which resulted in me enduring a tough process, there’s Hope; God still covers and protects, while He corrects. I love that the choices I’ve made can be used to make me a better me if I first take responsibility for the choice I made, repent and ask God to lead me, decrease me that He might increase within me.  I know that is something tough for people to grasp… God having such a measure of faithfulness, such a Love for a people who turn their backs on Him and blame Him at every turn, but He still blesses, protects, covers, re-directs, shares, cares, and wants them apart of Him.  But again, to see that… guess what it starts with… Your Choice.

July 19, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Changes

Life consists of a myriad of changes and while we live we go through changes.  The things we have to do to adjust and grow can some times be taxing and overwhelming; that is why I appreciate having the opportunity to write, release, pray, cry, scream and athough it’s not a good way to release, heck I’ll be honest getting out a good cussing has helped me LOL (don’t judge me).  I simply want to be better than what I’ve been.  I realize I will always learn something as long as I live and there is always room for improvement so I proceed.  Changing is not always easy; accepting the things about myself that need to be changed is the hardest… I need to pray more, I need to worry less (especially about what people say or think).  I am learning to love the life I have and love who I am.  I never thought it would be so hard to simply accept me.  I am finding out though, achieving love for one’s self is the road to fulfillment in life.

   

 

April 18, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Processing – The Individual’s Journey

We walk many roads during our life’s journey and most of our journey’s can’t be explained or understood but we push forth to find our way.  As I grow I find myself learning and understanding the concept of processing and going through processes.  Life hasn’t been “easy” for me but it hasn’t been a constant strand of pain and misery either.  I am finally at a place in my journey where I am starting to connect the dots of my life that I once tagged with the label of misery and I appreciate it.  I realized, had hard, painful, stressful situations not happened in my life I would not know compassion the way I do.  I would not know the healing power of prayer, God’s miraculous delayering power that caused my once hardened heart to forgive.  I held on to a lot, I fought turning pages in my life that God meant for me to turn, and I internalized my hurts.  I started just opening my mouth and talking to God…. whereas I once “vented” to people, I simply started talking to God.  It was when I took those talks seriously that the processing began.  Things I once completely misunderstood about my life begin to make complete sense to me.  He’s fixing my heart; pieces of it are still missing, areas of it are still tender and bruised, but areas of it that I thought would never be healed are healed too.  I realize the processing is indeed working out for the good of me.

I have to let go, forgive, remember some things and forget others; more important than anything I have to endure the process to see a better, stronger, growing me.  I truly know what it means now when my grandma used to say, “Baby, don’t despise the process…” 

 

April 14, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Love Beyond Fantasy: When Real Love Meets the Road Radio Show!!

Hi WP Family!!!

I’ve got to do better keeping up with you all, you guys are such an AMAZING SUPPORT to me!  I wanted to share with you all an endeavor my husband and I have embarked upon… an online radio show!  Love Beyond Fantasy: When Real Love Meets the Road.  We broadcast live every third Tuesday of the month on Blog Talk Radio… we discuss relationships of all kinds, friendships, love relationships, business relationships… toxic relationships, fulfilling relationships, healthy relationships, draining relationships…. ALL TYPES.

This month’s episode is entitled, “When Keeping It Real Goes RIGHT!”  We we will be chatting with DC Natives, Abdul and Tonika Mahdi as they share with us how communication, honesty and no excuses keep them strong and in love!  We’ll have some music and definitively good conversation… won’t you join us? Tuesday, April 15th at 9p EST — Got a cell phone, you can call and listen in at (310) 742-1879; got a tablet or a computer? Even better! Tune in at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lovebeyondfantasy/2014/04/16/when-keepin-it-real-goes-right

Got a question for us? Email us at lbfradioshow@gmail.com or tweet us at @lbfradioshow

Hope y’all will tune and tell a friend!

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April 4, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Who I Desire To Be…

“Integrity is who you are, when nobody’s looking…” “Hypocrisy is the antithesis of integrity, it is pretending to be what you never intended to be in the first place.” Rev. Dr. Trunell & Rev. Dr.Alexis Felder

“He who walks with integrity walks securely,
But he who perverts his ways will become known” Proverbs 10:9 NKJV

It’s easy to point out the flaws in others…but when you’re focused on growing up yourself, you soon learn, don’t waste your time worrying about the imperfections of others… work on your own. I desire to be a woman of integrity; have I had hypocritical moments? Absolutely, but it’s something about that mirror that God turns on you… I love Jesus so much, I find myself at a place of “I just don’t care…” let me explain…

1) I don’t care if they believe I’m saved or not 2) I don’t care if they agree with what I believe — if we ain’t headed in the same direction they made the choice of who I should have around me EASY 3) I don’t care that they seek to use my imperfections of me to refute my faith 4) I don’t care to justify why I do what I do as long as what I do is pleasing to Him 5) I don’t care about signifiers, they’re only doing their jobs ‪#‎watching‬… give em something to watch.

I care to live better, love better, be better…not for applause or notoriety; not to please people who’ll change faces as fast as they change places in line… Just because it’s worth it… even if I have to walk the path alone. After all, it is straight but narrow, right?

March 31, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

REPOST: From The Desk of Jelani Wilson – “I’m A Man”

I’m proud to be a man; I’m thankful for growing out of the boyish phase into true manhood. No, that growth didn’t occur because I knocked down insurmountable amounts of vulnerable women, or masked my insecurities by being a so-called player, no that growth came through spiritual storms that brought me down to my knees… a mirror hand delivered from heaven to my spirit showing me, me.

I’m not the most sociable person, I am cool just being at home, but I do believe I have a purpose — so my first mission starts with my son — showing him the ropes, how to manage a home with God leading the way. I don’t know exactly what God will have me to do, but when He tells me, I plan to do it with my whole heart in excellence.

Yea, I’m imperfect, we all are, but I’m serving a perfect God with a perfect plan that has a contingency plan for my imperfect ways. So you think you’re a man — show me a man who loves Jesus and submits to Him first before all others and I’ll show you a real man. Just my thoughts…

October 7, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Connect With Me

Hey WP Family!

The weekend is here!!!  I have lots of productivity in house activities planned for me and my family!!  I wanted to take time to share other outlets of communication where I want you my Word Press family to connect with me:

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/simplystacypoetry

Twitter – https://twitter.com/FollowingHisWay

Website – http://www.simplystacypoetry.com

I hope you’ll connect with me; I am excited to connect with you!

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August 17, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

When You Look Into the Mirror — Do You Like What You See??

There’s something about the mirror — the mirror reflects what is before it, right? However, many won’t admit that looking into a mirror to examine yourself is one of the toughest things to do.  No, I don’t mean to examine your physical appearance, I mean to look into your own eyes and declare the change that is required to improve you as a person.  Self examination is NOT an easy thing to do and self examination causes one to be accountable to themselves and I won’t lie, it’s certainly not something I look forward too.  However, a self check is NECESSARY whether you want to do it or not.

The moment I stop, take a good look at myself, and allow God to deal with me and my flaws is the moment of clarity where I can truly see what needs to be improved in me.  God has to do that often with me, I won’t sit here and tell any lies…He does.  I recognize why He has to do that, I can account for at least three reasons: 1) To keep me humble 2) To keep me from judging others 3) To remind me that this life I lead can’t/won’t go anywhere without Him

Life is an ever-learning journey and I need to make sure I learn from every lesson God desires to teach me, especially those about me.  I am realizing something also, when you’re focused on what God has called you too, the process He’s designed for you to go through, you don’t time to worry about what other folks are up to.  This is not as difficult as difficult for me to admit as it used to be — I’m thankful for the increase of maturity God has given me.  Even though I have a LOT more growing to do.

I will get off my soap box now, this little blurb I am posting is something I just had to get off my heart, if for no one else at a minimum for myself.  Never get too comfortable with where you are in life, thinking there’s no room left for you to grow, that there isn’t farther for you to go — as you continue growing you’ll keep going.

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July 9, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , | Leave a comment

Don’t Take It Personal

Sometimes it’s hard not to take it personally when you over hear or are told that someone is talking about you in a not so good way. But I’m learning NOT to take it personally. Why? Because what someone says about me, is none of my business, especially if they don’t have the guts to say it directly to me. Now, I’m not saying you should sit around and allow someone to defame your character or speak derogatorily about about you causing your harm or danger. But I’m talking about the piddle paddle stuff: like when someone gossips about you, speculate about what you do, formulating their own version of what’s true… that’s the type of interaction should not warrant a reaction from you.

When folks sit around looking for reasons to say “ANYTHING” about you…that’s your opportunity to put the positive spin on it. They’ve made you a PRIORITY in their life EVERY time they open their mouth to speak about you. Think about it for a second, of all the things in life one could shift their focus too, this person or persons decides to keep their focus on you. It’s like your name is the moniker on an awning affixed to their forehead. To me, that’s an ego booster! I know it’s frustrating having your name in someone’s mouth spewing negative energy and trying to bring you down with their words…but you have no control over that. What you do have control over is NOT giving them control of you by how you react to what they say…

Don’t get angry; keep your peace, keep living and doing you, give the naysayers, liars, gossipers NO ENERGY, let them talk, their insecurities are not your issue. I heard someone say, “Whether you’re doing good or bad, folks are going to always talk about you; since that’s the case, keep doing you!”

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January 24, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Getting To Give

I’m getting to give; I know that may sound strange to many but that’s where I am.  It took me a long time, hard trials, and a lot of selfishness purge to get here, but I’m here sincerely. Whatever I get, I want to give it. If I get notoriety when God uses me, I want give others notoriety, making sure I support ministries, esteem others higher than me. I want to get to give. While I wait to get, I plan to give all I have until I am empty.  No, I don’t plan to be a fool and give to every slanted eye and crooked smile, but I plan to discern making sure that whatever/whoever I sew into takes that seed I plant and grows it the EXTRA mile. 

People need people, even the ones “we label” unnecessary, they’re needed too. I need to stop and take moment to thank God for not labeling me, the way I’ve labeled many. Help me to treat others as gate keepers to the next destination in my journey. What God puts in, please understand, Satan seeks to cipher out, so it’s our responsibility to guard our hearts after it’s been cleansed and refilled with God’s intentions. Satan is no fool, he’s always on his job too, and if God gives something to you, it is GUARANTEED to be of use to someone other than you. Satan doesn’t want us to impact anyone else. He likes it when we esteem ourselves, thinking about ourselves, doing what’s best for us in silo without regard for others. That’s selfish, which is directly out of line with God, Who’s SELFLESS (Jesus is proof).

So, I’m getting to give and I hope to give as much as I can before my spirit man leaves this land. Please note when my CD comes out, “Love & Worship: A Lyrical Journey For the Heart & Soul” it will bless more than just me. I plan to reach, teach, touch, bless as many as God allows me too. I’ll start right now by saying thank you to those of you who’ve taken the time and energy to read, like, or even share this blog. You’re impacting somebody, more than me. Thank you for your selfless act of kindness today!Image

September 16, 2012 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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