Simply Stacy Poetry

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The Journey To Loving Me and She…

I literally had to become an adult before I learned how what I think manifests into what I speak and what I speak ultimately turns into what I do.  Women I encountered outside of my mother, unknowingly taught me how to dislike other women, without knowing them.  I became conditioned, not because of what I experienced, solely based off of what I “learned” by hearing to “size her up.”  Now, let’s put a little bit of logic to how a person heals, transforms, and grows out of such behaviors.  Learned behavior develops in layers, year after year after year… thick and stacked high!  It takes time to remove those layers, thought processes over time, but God can do anything and He can do it quickly (His quick is not our quick though ha ha!) Something happens to break through one or a few of those layers and as each layer is peeled away, the freer that person becomes, their thoughts change, ideas change, perceptions change.  That’s exactly what happened to me… and the root of why “I didn’t like her… without even knowing her… is because I didn’t like me.”  I had to first learn to sincerely love me, I had to believe what I said about me, for real.  You know we live in a world where it’s easy to pick up a mask, place it on, live for the day, take it off, go to sleep and do it all over again day after day, month after month, year after year.  I did that, lived behind the mask of false confidence, I didn’t like what I saw when I looked in the mirror and that made it easy to dislike others, women especially, especially women who had confidence.

God broke through to me, me being completely unwilling of course… but He did.  It was in those moments, I learned, that when God sets out to accomplish something in you, it will get done and the sooner you say yes, the more impact He will have.  He gave me two daughters… they came from me, I couldn’t teach them the ugliness that resided in me.  The process began of loving me, because of how much I loved them.  I had to first accept and love the color of my skin.  I am dark skinned and within my culture and outside of my culture, I was made to feel that dark skinned women aren’t beautiful. I bought into those lies, I didn’t like the skin I was in and on top of that, I have an overbite, I walk with a limp due to a birth defect, I’m big-skinny (fat stomach, small legs, big chest, fact face) LOL, I know, silly… but I didn’t like who I saw when I looked at me, thought about me.  I remembered the words of life my momma spoke over me as a little girl. I started to believe the words my husband affirmed over me, and the how my daddy said I was beautiful. It started there, I knew when I looked at my daughters that they were beautiful and I wanted to make sure they believed that about themselves when I told them that.  In doing that, I was reminded that I couldn’t expect them to believe me, when I didn’t believe my own mother’s words.

Anyway, God began to break down the layers and with ever layer removed from me, I was able to see my fellow sister in a different light.  I found myself after about a 15 year delayering process loving me.  I loved the beauty, the variety, the originality of women.  My black sisters, were becoming works of art in my eyes, no longer beings that I disliked because of my own insecurities.  She was the epitome of beauty to me. When I looked around I saw different types of women, shapes of women and it encouraged me.  I was inspired to accept my originality and now I want to be surrounded.  I am interested in learning about the different gifts each woman possesses, I want to embrace my fellow sisters of my culture and other cultures, identifying with our similarities and understanding our intricacies.  I want to kill the stereotype that I’d once made my reality… “Women just don’t get along.”  That’s a false statement that I want to bury with every woman that God blesses to connect with me.  I love me…. and now I can love she because we are one in the same, originally made.

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July 26, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Self Honesty

I know this must be a crazy thing to say but I am really just now learning to be honest with myself.  I have insecurities, that’s no secret, we all do, but I had to start saying some things out loud to myself in order for me to begin to accept them.  For example, it’s easy to catch someone else be judgmental but boy is it tough to carry the mantle of being judgmental yourself.  Through some very recent events in my life, I realized, I need deliverance and healing in the area of judging others.  I am thankful to God for the painful life experiences that produce imperfections about me that NEED to be healed.  One thing I make a declaration to STOP doing, is befriending people too fast.  It’s unfair to them and it’s unfair to me.  I don’t give them enough time to learn me and I don’t give myself enough time to learn them so when storms arise in the building of the relationship, things are torn down and in many cases irreparable.  I carry something that I think my momma was working hard to rid me of during the 13 years she was here with me… I give too quickly.  I give everything up front, without discernment, a lot of times based off of commonalities I identify with individuals and then when things happen and I become hurt or offended then I’m sitting there looking stupid.  I can’t blame people for hurting me, I blame me.  I realize something, my discernment is not as strong as I thought it was.  I also need to learn how to rely on God to heal me from hurts instead of people.

Today, this day, April 26th God kept me still… I laid in bed most of the day, literally slept on and off until about 5p EST.  God talked straight to me… “I can’t heal you until you allow me to reveal to you what needs to be healed in you.”  So, here in this blog, I am going to reveal what I know needs to be healed about me as I stand today…

Stop judging people because they don’t think like I do, look like I do, believe in what I do… STOP JUDGING

Stop giving so much so soon, allow God to guide my heart

Be slow to speak about things when I am angry or irritated

Take time affording the title of friend to people; get to know them and allow them to get to know me

Forgive faster…stop dwelling on offenses and forgive

Quit being angry at things I can’t control

I know that’s not much, but it’s enough for me to deal with today.  My prayers are changing, I am doing a lot more looking at me and slowing down my pace because I need to.  I am getting hurt and in my hurt I am hurting others and I don’t want to be that person.  I want to love with sincerity; I want the character of genuine to be seen in my presence before I open my mouth to speak.

I will be a better me with each day I’m given.  Things I MUST accept, everybody won’t like me, everybody won’t be straightforward with you, everybody won’t love like you do, you’re imperfect, you can’t control every situation and the most important, life is filled with seasons, know when the seasons change.

I hope those of you that took the time to read this enjoyed it!

Self Honesty

April 27, 2015 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I’m In This For You

I pour my heart out

To make sure there’s no doubt

That I’m in this for you

Enough following society’s standard

Of making you read my mind

I lay it all out there

Transparently on the line

I’m in this for you

No, you’re not my life

I had that before you came

I’m securely me

You’re securely you

Now we can be

One together

And individuals too

I just want to be clear

I hope you understand

That I’m in this for you

I’m your woman

You’re my man…

I’m in this for you

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June 30, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Just A Beat of My Heart…

Tonight WP I sit in a very familiar place; I can feel the tears welling up in my eyes and at the same time I feel them spilling over in my heart.  I am at a place that I’ve been before, I know it, I feel it.  So tonight, I am here not to vent or bring you down, but to encourage you all. Remain positive, NO MATTER WHAT life throws your way; remember what’s thrown at you, you CAN handle!  Hurt when left untreated can fester, corrode, and turn into a hardened rust that only God can heal.  Anger when left to sit can spread like a virus and infect everything and everyone it comes in contact with.  So someone may ask, “How do you deal with that?” “How do you cope?” Start by thinking on better thoughts… you can’t produce what isn’t already in your heart to come out…

Life is not an easy feat, it was never meant to be, however, I believe life was meant to be a journey full of lessons that results in blessings.  Some of the lessons we’re meant to learn in life don’t come to us in an easy way and those are the ones that I believe stick closest to your heart, the lessons that you can walk someone else through to help them avoid going through what you did to get what God intended to teach you.  So, tonight I sit here in the place of “Be anxious for nothing but in EVERYTHING give thanks…” and I have to do just that… in EVERYTHING… my angst, my hurt, my nervousness, I will GIVE THANKS!

I am not religious by any stretch of the imagination, I do however have a relationship with Jesus Christ and I believe He has something GREAT in store for me if I conquer this moment that attempts to ail me right now.  I just wanted to connect with you all WP Family; I pray you all have a beautiful evening and continue to be ENCOURAGED!Image

February 25, 2014 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Letter To My Sisters

I owe you an apology

For judging you

Without having known what you’ve been through

For setting expectations on you based on my experiences

Sister, dear sister

I apologize to you

Jealousy reared its ugly head in me

And I was too filled with pride to say I’m sorry

For not embracing you

Encouraging and empowering you on through

Instead, I rolled my eyes and said…

“She thinks she’s cute…”

For that, I am saying I am sorry to you

My sister

Created by God’s Hands too

I have no right

To cut my eyes at you

To cause you pain

Stress or disdain

He called you too by your name

When we were created

He intended for us to come together

See God knows there’s strength in numbers

Our strength combined

Could hold nations together

One sister at a time

But O satan

He came to kill steal and destroy

So he started with us

Planting the seed of discord

I have no reason not to like you

But my insecurities within

Won’t allow me to have the gift of being your friend

But today my sister

The separation ends here

Today, I uplift you

Today, I offer my hand

I ask you to forgive me

And I pray to God

To heal our land

Today is a new

Today, sister, I walk hand in hand with you

As God intended for us to do

We will come together and bless Him Name

If He can use no one else

He will be able to use me and you

A Letter To My Sisters

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November 20, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , | Leave a comment

Directed…

Yesterday, October 26th was an interesting day an emotional day. I woke up from a wonderful night of performing poetry and enjoying music with some GREAT artist friends. When I opened my eyes and got myself together, reality set in that today was the day I was going to the memorial of my dear friend’s father.  I had to be strong; this memorial affected me in more ways than one.  You see, I mourned for my friend because I understood what it meant to lose your father. Our stories were parallel in this experience because her daddy was  military vet, so was mine, her daddy died from liver cancer, so did mine and her daddy loved her with all his heart, so did mine.  I went, the service was beautiful but I cried…HARD. I cried, it reminded me of my dad’s passing, I looked around and it was like a poem coming to life — I saw the love of her family, it was genuine and I cried even more. 

Since my mom died 22 years ago, the tight bond of love amongst family for me has been non-existent.  What I mean by that is, outside of the intermediate family: dad, brothers and sisters; the cousins, aunts, cookouts, holiday dinners, simple get togethers went away.  My daddy wanted to continue that, but he soon caught on that people wanted to deal with who they wanted to deal with and you had to forge the relationships set before you.  My dad died June 2012, I remember sitting in the room at the hospice watching him fight to breath…I couldn’t cry, I tried but I couldn’t. Sitting in that church yesterday, listening to the family talk about the love that filled the room of my friend’s dad when he passed, how they embraced and prayed, I cried even more.  That was beautiful, I pictured it vividly in color it was beautiful. I was mindful of how hard I was crying because I didn’t want to offend my friend’s family, I didn’t know their loved one that well but my tears were real, I was hurting for my own reasons.

The service concluded and I won’t lie I practically ran out of the place. I got to my car, sat for a moment and pulled off. I stopped to get gas and decided to park to send a few texts. I paused, I text some people who were key players in ensuring the event I hosted the night before was successful.  I found myself texting my friends, letting them know how much I love them, what they mean to me and that I didn’t want to wait till they were being memorialized before I told them how important they are to me.  I sat for a while, not sure why I did, but I did and I finally pulled off an entire hour later after I’d left the church. I drove off, quietly. I turned on my iPod and drove along and as I was headed down 285 and I caught a glimpse of a woman, she was walking vigorously, as if she had somewhere to be. As quick as I saw her, was as quick as God spoke to me…. “Stop and pick her up…” so I did. I pulled over into the emergency lane and waited for her, as she approached my car, I rolled my window down and asked her where she was headed.  She said I’m heading to work. We were at exit 41 her job was exit 37 and she was walking with all her things.  I had to thank God for even positioning me to help her; when she got in the car I simply said, “God will supply all of your needs.” She thanked me and we rolled along.  She went on to tell me how she is caring for her sick husband and couldn’t afford to miss work.  She told me she needed to be there before two so she got off the bus and started walking because she knew she wouldn’t make it before then and look at God, I picked her up at 1:40p.

I dropped her off and I thanked God for that opportunity; it reminded me that God still directed me… God can use you, He wants too. Allow Him to lead you!

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October 27, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Our Love

It’s like the moment you realize your heart is at peace

The moment where that thing that stressed you, left you

Relief

It’s like the finding the single piece to the puzzle

That’s seemed to last forever

Yea, that’s what’s it like when you and I are together

It’s like writing the missing lyric

To complete that perfect song

It’s like hearing the sound of soft rain

On a romantic night you want to last ALL NIGHT LONG

That moment that gives you life

Blissful, warm, you know that kind

That’s what our love is like

What we have is far beyond what society says

We go against the grain seeking within the deep

You know the kind, where one watches the other while they sleep

God hand mixed the colors of our love

Red with Blue to make the purple ribbons tied around are hearts

Then He blessed it and we promised Him we’d never part

This love is different

Never to be the norm

This love is forever

Keeping the two of us eternally warm

This Love.

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September 2, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

REPOST: I Am Valuable Exclusive By Blaq Kharma

REPOST: I Am Valuable Exclusive By Blaq Kharma

Excellent read! Check it out WordPress, it’s about “I Am Valuable Mentoring Program™”

January 22, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I AM THANKFUL!

My event launching my spoken word CD & Book: Love & Worship: A Lyrical Journey For the Heart & Soul, was AWESOME! I couldn’t have done it without the willing participants, every artists, every audience member, every friend and family member that lent a hand, prayed, encouraged and inspired made that night happen…. However, I’m here to talk about WHY, why that night happened. I wish I could say to sell CDs, books, & Tees so that I could buy the NEXT BIG THING, but it wasn’t for that reason. It was for the future, our children, our young men and women.  I am launching a mentoring program, “I Am Valuable Mentoring Program™.”  This program is designed from a sincere place of concern, care, and compassion for our future.  I’m committed to using portions of the proceeds from the sales of my book, CD, and Tees to go toward this program.  What is I Am Valuable Mentoring Program™ about? Glad you asked,

I Am Valuable Mentoring Program™ is a program focused helping young girls from all walks of life. Young ladies from all races, social statuses, and financial backgrounds are welcomed. I Am Valuable™ will help participants by providing them with positive role models and educate them on various topics that will enhance their quality of life. I Am Valuable™ will offer options to young women who may otherwise “think” they have none. One of the goals of I Am Valuable™ is to help develop young women in ways of becoming strong leaders, confident in whom they are and all they do while emphasizing good moral standing. I Am Valuable™ will focus on the uniqueness of each participant, nurturing & cultivating their individual gifts allowing them the opportunity to set goals, identify their dreams, and pursue their purpose. I Am Valuable™ seeks to take the focus off of where one comes from and places it on where one is going.

Hopefully you will partner with me, in making this much needed dream a reality! I want to help more than just myself, God has done a great job of making sure I’m taken care of, now it’s time for me to use what He’s placed within to help somebody else. For more information about I Am Valuable Mentoring Program™ – visit http://www.simplystacypoetry.com/giving_back.html

Look out, I Am Valuable™ is coming! Thank you for reading!Image

January 22, 2013 Posted by | The World Outside Your Window | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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